THE LOVE book, Elizabeht N. Doyd, book summary

The love book, Writing your way to your soulmate, by Elizabeth N. Doyd, turbomind book summary, MIguel De La Fuente

Hi, today, we have the summary for the book the Love Book, writing your way to your soulmate, written by Elizabeth N. Doyd. 

 

This is a short but powerful book for anyone looking for a soulmate, a life partner, or a love couple.

The basic premise for this book is that if you don’t have your soulmate yet is because you haven’t  BEEN READY to receive this person into your life.  In other words, you have block the manifestation of your soulmate for your lack of readiness. It’s pretty straightforward. At some subconscious level you have block this person, there is a part of you which not ready to receive this person.

The good news is that you can attract your soulmate into your life. You can do things that will help manifest this person in your life.

You have a choice; you can spend your time resenting happy couples or you can use the same time developing yourself, and preparing yourself for your soulmate, your life partner. Since time has an unstoppable regularity, why not spending it preparing yourself for something great like a soulmate?

There is one The key to attract your soulmate is to be as happy and as grateful as possible. This is the most important since like attacks like, so in order to attack the best to you have to be in your best possible state, the best possible you.

When you are as happy and as grateful as possible you attract someone that is also grateful and happy as yourself, or at least that he/she has the potential to be.

Be as grateful and as happy as possible to attract the best to you

 

In order to attract your soulmate you also need another two things,
1. Self love
2. Have faith and maintain the faith

The key is to maintain your faith. You can believe now, that the special person will appear, and then tonight you have doubts.

The name of the game is to maintain the faith. Maintain the faith, be consistent. Be regular. Have the least ups and downs possible.

Another successful key is to interrupt the negative love patterns that you probably have developed along your life.

These negative patterns can be very destructive because they are anchored in your subconscious, and are automatic.

So, you will have to make some inner shits and changes to attract your soulmate. Journaling is one of them. It is an extraordinary tool for self improvement and achievement.

Start a soulmate journal today. It will make a big difference in your life. Even 15 minutes of journaling makes a huge difference in your belief and vision.  

Another important point in the book is for you to discover yourself, what you really want and your true purpose in life. When you know your purpose and you are doing something that matters for you, that has value, you tend to attract people that will support this mission.


The reality is that you already have all the answers within yourself. Everything is inside of you.

Also, point out that there are many roads to love. There are many roads to manifest your true love, your soulmate. There are many different paths that will take you to the right person for you.

The love you seek is already available to you, is out there. You have to develop the courage to Trust God and the universe to deliver the right person for you.

The most important is to listen to your intuition and not to your immediate needs. Your intuition is usually right. Go with your gut feeling and not your immediate needs.

A necessary step is for both partners to constantly work on their negative traits and strengthen the positive ones.

A great partnership starts with a Great friendship, where there is an emotional connection between the partners.  

Here are some powerful questions you can start to answer I your journal. Make a commitment to write and answer each question. Answer these questions can give you the reasons and internal strength to manifest your soulmate.  That person is closer than you think.

Journaling

Why do you want love?

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If you were in a romantic relationship how would your life be different?

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Do you truly believe that your desire for big love can be realized?
Explore why and the reasons

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Can you see yourself in a loving relationship?

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How do you feel about being single?

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What do you like doing?

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What makes you feel good?

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There are a lot of things you can do as a single that you won’t be able to do once you are in a couple, even though you want a wonderful relationship,  being single has its advantages to….so put things in perspective.  Maybe you really want a relationship, but if you do it from a place of desperation probably it won’t work. You could be blocking this person to enter your life.

Learn to enjoy being single, being happy and being grateful. You will increase your chances this way.

Humans are meant to share love with a romantic partner. This is a deep internal desire. This is our DNA. Use this desire to your advantage.

You might be single to learn something you need to learn. In other words, you can use the experience in your favor. It’s always about using the experience in your favor, to your advantage. Some of the things you might learn can prepare you for your marriage.

Ask yourself: What can I learn from this situation? What can I learn from being single? How could I use this situation to your advantage?

Divorce rate is so high because people don’t spend their time to find out if they are truly compatible. Spend time learning about the other person. Spend time learning  if you are truly compatible.

Make a decision that you want love, and you will overcome your fear of love. The courage needs to be stronger than the fear. You will always have some level of fear and doubts. Develop the courage to confront your fears, your doubts and go for what you want in life.

 

4. RELEASE NEGATIVE BELIEFS ABOOUT LOVE

Your thoughts and beliefs create your life and your destiny. They affect every single area of your life, including your love life. Create thoughts of possibility and faith.

Here are some of the negative beliefs people have, which block and prevent them from having true love.

  1. There are no good men/women left.
  2. I am too old/fat/ugly to get love.
  3. Everyone gets love expect me.
  4. Love will get on my work and independence.
  5. I’ll only get cheated on if I let love in.

 

Write down:
the reasons I can’t have my soulmate because….

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When I think of marriage I think of….

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I am single because…..

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EXERCISE:
Turn the negative statements into positive ones….for example

There are no good men/women left out there.
There are plenty of extraordinary people out there. My soulmate is there waiting and looking for me. Every person on this planet has a soulmate, an ideal mate.

Tell yourself “I release all negative beliefs about love”, “My amazing love life starts now

Your negative thoughts and believes probably have been shaping for years, and they have become part of you. It will take persistent effort on your part to interrupt the negative thoughts and install positive ones.

Make a commitment to always interrupt them, no matter what. This is the key, same as training a dog, you need to be regular, and consistent. Your mind and thinking patterns are like a muscle; they need training and work in the right direction.

There is a method by Bryon Katie called “The work”, to let go some thoughts. I haven’t personally tried it but you can check in her website.

 

Write down what you like and you don’t like about your appearance:

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What traits are you trying to hire from your dates?

Now think about the people who don’t care about this trait and tell yourself:
“I forgive myself for judging myself to be….”

Tell yourself:
The right person will see me. My soulmate will be drawn to me and won’t hesitate to talk to me.

Here is a powerful and empowering belief:

There are no such a thing as a rejection. Other peoples judgments reflect their own insecurities.

Set your intentions to STOP destructive behaviors that get in the way of love like…

  1. Go out with men who won’t commit
  2. Use sex and sexuality to get love and intimacy
  3. Go with marry men
  4. Bending over backwards to convince someone to love you.

Al of these are destructive behavior that most likely make your soulmate stay away from you…

Tell yourself:
“I love myself. All negative thoughts, emotions ad actions are now released. I am free”

 

6 DECLUTER YOUR HEART

 

Sometime past lovers don’t let us manifest our soulmate or potential soulmate. There are like chains that imprison us. Let past lovers go, release them from your mind and from your life.

There might be past lovers who have energetic hooks on us.

Empowering belief:
Your past relationships teach you lessons and prepare you for your soulmate, the person you will have lasting fulfillment and joy with.

By letting go of your exs you will stop wasting time and energy and it will liberate yourself. It will make you open to your soulmate. Release all negative emotions like anger and bitterness about past lovers.

Exercise:
Make a list of ex lovers who you haven’t gotten over yet, write a letter to them, or write it in your love diary.

 

7 Parental Love

 

Write it down in your diary;

What do you like about each of your parents and what you don’t like:
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What do you like or dislike about yourself as an adult?

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Do you share similar traits with your parents?

 

 

8 Forgiving others

Start to heal from your past hurts by writing down each person that you think it has made you wrong in the past…….

Write it down in your diary……everything….how you feel…how it affected your life…etc…

Explore how would you feel if you didn’t carry this sentiment anymore…

Write on your journal for at least 20 minutes everything about the past, how you felt, and about the present and your future.

How do you feel now?
9 Forgiving Yourself

Sometimes the person who you need to forgive the most is yourself.

Write in your journal if you have anything to forgive yourself about, how do you feel, and make a commitment to release this feeling from yourself and your life.

The more you write the better.

10 The greatness in You

Mirrow Exercise:

Look in the mirror and tell yourself:
I love you. You are beautiful.

You can also say things like…

You are talented
You are a genius
You are sexi
You have a lot to offer…

And then you ask yourself if any of these  statements make you feel uncomfortable, if you feel to resist compliments?  Write it I your diary

 

I love this statement from the book:
“Denying your own greatness is something you need to get over”

The problem with watching all the negative news every day is that they send you a message of drama, of negativity, mediocrity, and you start to accept that you are average. The truth is we are all specials, we are all geniuses. We are all made of greatness. We all have to accept this fundamental truth and be more of that.

 

Here are some great exercises you can do:

  1. List all the great things you have to offer
  2. 3 personality traits people like about you.
  3. Imagine your soulmate loving you, what does she like about you?

 

11 The Giver

Do you find hard to say no to people demands?

If you are in a relationship where you are doing most of  the giving, giving  of love, giving of effort, giving of support without the other part doing much, it’s time to change it. Write in your diary about this situation and about options to change it.

You can use these autosuggestions:
I am whole ad complete
I give and receive love freely

 

12 The Receiver

Here is a great question in this chapter…..Make sure you write the answer to this question in your journal.

If you knew that your soulmate would knock on your door right now, how ready would you be to receive this person into your life? Would you be ready or would you panic?

A lot of people say something but do something else. They say they want a soulmate, a life partner but they are not really ready. They think they are but in reality they are not.

This is an important question, because until you truly are ready to receive something, you will let it into your life.

You must be 100% ready to accept your soulmate in order for this person to appear into your life.

Not 90%, or 97%, 100% ready to enter your life.

I know in my own life, I thought I was ready but I wasn’t, and interestingly I was kind of sabotaging my own success in love.

Now I am 100% ready for her to appear in my life and I incredible situations are happening.

This is a mental and emotional shift. It’s like changing gears in a car. 

Here another great question:
What kind of obligations do you feel are getting in the way to your love?

                              

Exercise:
write the answers to those 2 questions and then write out an affirmation that would support you, and your readiness to accept your soulmate into your life.

 

13 The Love Delusion

In this chapter, Elizabeth writes about the delusion of being in a relationship that is not for you and that deep inside your voice and intuition is telling you that person is not soulmate and is not for you but you keep hanging there.

Write in your journal, write your dream person for you. It will help you develop the courage to do what you deep inside know you should do.

The passion is great, and necessary, but it doesn’t sustain or maintain a relationship. You need much more. You need a deep connection with someone.

Ask yourself:
Have you ever resisted a deep connection with someone?

This is a great question, because that deep connection is the foundation of a soulmate relationship.

 

In order to connect with someone to a deep level we need too connect with our higher purpose, our purpose in life, what we are here for.

 

Write in your journal:
What is your purpose? Write down your mission statement.

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You have a huge source of love inside you, a reservoir of love you can tap and activate at any time. Is there waiting for you.

 

14 Emotional needs

 

In this chapter it makes an interesting distinction between needing love and feeling love.

When you say you need love you are attracting the need, not the “feeling love”. The energy you are sending is need, not love. If you want to attract love, you want to start feeling loved, this way you will attract more of the same. If you need, you will attract the need, in other words, you will repel real love. 

You first want to meet this need by yourself, then you will feel loved and you will attract more of that.

If my deepest desire is to feel________, what would my soulmate do
fulfill that?

Then, whatever you answered to that question, ask yourself how could you obtain this feeling on your own?

Happiness is not external, whatever you are feeling is in you, either love or joy, or anger, it’s all you. When you fulfill this need you become more attractive. 

It might seem contradictory, but you must find ways to be happy without a partner, in order to attract your soulmate. Happiness attracts happiness.

That’s a fascinating point to think about…..

 

15 Your Living Space

In this chapter deals with the issue if you have a place ready for your soulmate…..so the great question here is:

If your soulmate was at your door, would you be proud to let person in to give him/her in?

If you feel your place is not up to the standards you would like to have fix it, clean it or accommodate it. Make your place scream for love. Getting rid of the clutter welcomes new things.

Get your place ready for your soulmate as soon as possible

Exercise:
Make a list of the things you want to complete before your soulmate arrives in your life.

Make space in your home for your soulmate. At as if your soulmate is already in your home and prepare it accordingly.

 

16 What is Your Purpose

 

Basically this chapter suggests that if you are waiting for your soulmate to make yourself happy and fill your life, you are selling yourself short. Your life is empty and that person will not change the basic problem. You need to have a full life, be happy and then your soulmate would have more probabilities of appearing.

If your soulmate would watch your life right now, would she be proud of what she sees?

 

Exercise:
Write down your top 5 passions. Make a plan to schedule time for these activities.

You can do the passion test from the book by the same name, these authors,
Janet Bray Attwood and Chris Attwood.

 

17 Who is Your Soulmate

So in the first part of the book you have gotten ready for your soulmate, clean your home, get the space ready, know about your passions and start living them, and now you are ready for the second part.

Exercise:
Make a list of all the qualities you want in your dream partner. In this list, you can have a section of non negotiable items, the qualities or values you will not negotiate under any circumstances.

Make a list of the top 10 traits your soulmate should have.

Personal note:
I like to write these list as an affirmation. A script with a story. For example, I am with my soulmate travelling; she is 27 year old, super nice, caring…..etc…

I developed these two and read them every day:

You can make a description of your ideal mate
A description of your dream life with your soulmate, where would you live, what would you do, will you have children or not,…….the more detail the better.

18 Welcome Your Soulmate with Heart Energy

Here is a very powerful and empowering believe:
There is someone living, breathing and walking who is perfect for you
.

Welcome this person with a meditation:

Sit comfortable, breathe deeply, and focus on your heart energy. Imagine a golden light emanating from your heart. This light becomes a lotus flower of light around you and it send sparks of light into the universe. These sparks reach your soulmate and this person can feel them.

As you send the love energy you say aloud:
I open up to my Divine love. God, thank you for my soulmate,
who is coming to me right now. I bless this person wherever s/he is
and trust we are brought together at the perfect time. I release any
doubts in my heart or mind that love is mine. I have faith in you God,
and I thank you for all the love in my life

Whenever you feel a little down or the doubts start to emerge in your head you can tell yourself this affirmation, or a variation of it:

I will not let negative thoughts and emotions enter my consciousness. I have Clear the way with positive energy. My soulmate is entering my life now

Or this one:

I am bringing someone now who is for my highest good.

You can repeat this affirmation 10x per day or whatever you consider appropriate.

 

19 Raise your vibration, act AS IF

This is a powerful technique. Act as if.

When you want a soulmate, all you are probably producing is a feeling of wanting, not a feeling of having already because you don’t have this person yet. It’s understandable. However, this feeling of always wanting can also produce a barrier in your mind as if you will never get the right person.

So, the easiest way to change this feeling is to transform it into a feeling of already having this person.

How would you feel if you truly had your perfect mate with you now?
What type of feeling, gestures, and emotions would you have
?

Your body can produce any emotion, even if the cause is not there, you can recreate I in your head.

This is the strongest and probably most powerful technique you have available. If you can truly feel as if you have your soulmate, you will become a magnet for this person.

Pretend for one moment your soulmate was here with you now, and you were right next to each other holding hands.

How would you feel? Describe and write down the feeling.

Live as if your soulmate was already in your life. If you want to get marry, buy yourself a ring and train yourself how that feeling would be. The soulmate and the ring will appear when you do the proper work.

The more lonely and desperate you feel the more loneliness you will have in your life.

Start living and behaving as if your soulmate was already with you.

Exercise:

Pretend you have your sooulmate already with you, living with you, act and behave as if you would be already together. Do this for 30 days and see the difference and the people you meet.

 

20 Vision Board

This is another very effective and powerful technique for bringing your soulmate into your life.

Vision board is simply a collection of images, quotes or anything that represents what you want to bring into your life.

Images that represent what you want, that you can see them every day and help you magnetize and manifest them into your life.

You can have different vision boards for different things or one big one for everything, or even both of them.

 

Additional points from several chapters in the book

Expand your self love and worthiness. Confidence is attractive, is not the same as narcissism, and egotism. Stand up for yourself in a civilized manner

Action versus stillness, what is the right balance? Do I wait, do I take action, do I take massive action, what should I do?

It’s important to do the inner work and the exercises here, the meditation, etc.

The best recommendation is to have a balance between your inner work and the right external action. Do not wait for things to happen, you can wait but while taking action. On the other side, don’t be desperate to go to every singles dating service. Find your balance.

Manifesting your soulmate is a balance between being and doing.

Listen t your intuition.

There is perfect man or woman, only the right person for you.

Make a list of the people you need to talk to, about things they are saying that prevent you from manifesting your soulmate, like the fertility rate of women after 35 is much lower.

JOURNAL THE DIFFICULT moments, get them out from you. Writing is a super powerful tool to put things in perspective and to help you immensely.

You are enough just the way you are. True love doesn’t have limits.

Get examples of love against all odds. Look for those examples in moves, in books, in magazine, create the “against all odds” love directory.

When you are dating on the soul level there is no competition. You will ultimately end up with the right person for you.

There is enough love and happiness for everyone.

When you vibration s high and you feel great you are naturally more attractive.

Love is not a race to the altar.

 

Exercise:

  1. Write down what would you do with your soulmate the next holiday, the next Christmas or new year eves, where will you go, with whom? Describe it in detail.
  2. Also, make a list of all the things you will do with your soulmate.
  3. Write down all the things you are grateful in your life.

 

 

Create your ideal life and future in advance. You have the power.

Be patience. Your soulmate will appear at the right time.

The universe is always listening, working on your best interest.

 

The soulmate checklist

Go through this list to make sure you are ready to receive and manifest your soulmate

  1.  Clarify why you want love and what you are looking in for a soulmate.
  2. Do you believe your soulmate is there looking for you
  3. Release negative beliefs and behavior.
  4. Released negative beliefs about yourself.
  5. Release past ex lovers and make room for new one.
  6. Forgiven people that hurt you.
  7. Forgive yourself
  8. Realize your true pupose and realize a life of passion.
  9. Realize how great you truly are
  10.  Made your home ready for your soulmate
  11.  Made your heart ready
  12.  Surround yourself with supportive people.
  13.  Let go of rejection and taken a more fu approach to dating.
  14.  Become more open to people around you, more interested in them.
  15.  Practice daily the light meditation.
  16.  Act as if you had already your soulmate for 30 days.

 

When you are with your soulmate you feel as if you known each other for ever. Conversations flow easily. You share the same morals and values, while being different people. You have complementary personality traits. The universe has brought you together to bring the best of each other and to support each others growth.

Beautiful paragraph.

 

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Some key Important Pointsfrom the book

  1. If you don’t have your soulmate is because at some level you have blocked this person out from your life, at some subconscious or unconscious level you are keeping this person away.
  2. Be as grateful and as happy as possible in order to attract the best to
    you.

      3. Interrupt negative patterns of thinking and behaving that you might    have developed during many years.

      4. Have self love and have faith will bring this person faster. You have to keep the faith level, meaning its like wave.
      5. Start a soulmate journal today

6. Discover yourself, what you really want and your true purpose in life

7. The love you seek is already available to you, is out there

8. The most important is to listen to your intuition

9. Work on their negative traits and strengthen the positive ones

10. A great partnership starts with a Great friendship

11. Learn to enjoy being single, being happy and being grateful. You will increase your chances this way.

12. Humans are meant to share love with a romantic partner. This is a deep internal desire.

13. Divorce rate is so high because people don’t spend their time to find out if they are truly compatible

14. Make a decision that you want love, and you will overcome your fear of love. The courage needs to be stronger than the fear. You will always have some level of fear and doubt

15. turn negative beliefs into positive ones, like “there are no good man out there”, or “all good man are taken?
There are no good men/women left.

  1. I am too old/fat/ugly to get love.
  2. Everyone gets love expect me.
  3. Love will get on my work and independence.
  4. I’ll only get cheated on if I let love in.

15. There are no such a thing as a rejection. Other people’s judgments reflect their own insecurities

16. Set your intentions to STOP destructive behaviors that get in the way of love like…

  1. Go out with men who won’t commit
  2. Use sex and sexuality to get love and intimacy
  3. Go with marry men

Bending over backwards to convince someone to love you
Al of these are destructive behavior that most likely make your soulmate stay away from you…

 

17. Empowering belief:
Your past relationships teach you lessons and prepare you for your soulmate,

18. “Denying your own greatness is something you need to get over”

19. You must be 100% ready to accept your soulmate in order for this person to appear into your life.

20. Write in your journal, write your dream person for you

21. In order to connect with someone to a deep level we need too connect with our higher purpose, our purpose in life, what we are here for.

 

22. When you say you need love you are attracting the need, not the “feeling love”. The energy you are sending is need, not love.

23. If your soulmate was at your door, would you be proud to let person in to give him/her in?

24. 19 Raise your vibration, act AS IF

This is a powerful technique. Act as if. How would you feel if you truly had your perfect mate with you now?
What type of feeling, gestures, and emotions would you have
?

25. The best recommendation is to have a balance between your inner work and the right external action

25. JOURNAL THE DIFFICULT moments, get them out from you

26. Write down what would you do with your soulmate the next holiday, the next Christmas or new year eves, where will you go, with whom? Describe it in detail

 

Key questions

Why do you want love?

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If you were in a romantic relationship how would your life be different

Do you truly believe that your desire for big love can be realized?
Explore why and the reasons

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Can you see yourself in a loving relationship?

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How do you feel about being single?

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What do you like doing?

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What makes you feel good?

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Empowering Beliefs to adopt

There is a soulmate for you, a special person you can share your life with. This person exists, and is alive. Every single person on this planet has a soulmate, an ideal mate.

We are meant to share love with a romantic partner. This is the way we are made. We are designed to share and love.

If you don’t have your soulmate yet is because you haven’t  BEEN READY to receive this person into your life.

You can attract your soulmate into your life. You can do things that will increase the probabilities of success.

I am ready to receive my soulmate

You deserve love. You are worthy. You deserve to have your soulmate in your life. You deserve the best this universe can give you.

My soulmate is out there. I even have many possible ideal partners. There is someone really special for me out there.

There is someone living, breathing and walking who is perfect for you.

There are no such a thing as a rejection. Other people’s judgments reflect their own insecurities.

Your past relationships teach you lessons and prepare you for your soulmate, the person you will have lasting fulfillment and joy with

“Denying your own greatness is something you need to get over”

You have a huge source of love inside you, a reservoir of love you can tap and activate at any time. Is there waiting for you.

 

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