What to Say when you Talk to Yourself by Shad Helmstetter, turbomind book club, by miguel de la fuente

This week we have a great book by Shad Helmstetter called “What to Say when you Talk to Yourself”. This is an interesting book on the power of your self-talk, what you say and how to talk to yourself. It´s about the power of your mental programming.

You can reach Shad at https://selftalkplus.com/.


The MORE YOU think about yourself in a certain way, the MORE YOU WILL THINK ABOUT YOURSELF IN THAT SAME CERTAIN WAY. The longer you have bought a specific thought or belief, the more powerful it is, and the “truer” is to you.

The MORE YOU USE IT, THE MORE YOU WILL USE IT IN THE FUTURE. This is the law of habit. The more you do something the more you TEND to repeat that action.

The human brain will do anything possible you tell it to do if you TELL IT OFTEN ENOUGH AND STRONG ENOUGH” As Shed says.

The more you repeat something the more ingrained becomes into your brain. Repetition is very powerful because it works both on a conscious and subconscious levels. It, also works on a positive or a negative way. Whatever you put into your mind, in one way or another, you get it back.

Very few self-improvement programs create lasting change because they take too much time or too much work. For something to work best, it has to be incorporated into your daily routine without having to spend too much time on it, as Shed says.

You WILL BECOME WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT MOST, your success or failures depends on your mental programming and this programming was first ingrained in you when you were very young.

The GREAT NEWS is you can CHANGE and reinstall a new mental programming and this is what the self-talk technique is all about, about installing a positive mental programming to help you achieve and become whatever you want.

Self-talk or positive affirmations is one of the easiest way to change, to override our past negative programming and install a NEW SET of thoughts and identities. And LISTENING to positive self-talk is the MOST EFFECTIVE way to change negative programming.

You still have to work, and dedicate yourself, but with the self-talk it can accelerate any result you want. You will have your mind working WITH AND FOR YOU. It affects the deepest part of your mind and your identity.

It doesn’t matter if you believe or not your new and empowering self-talk, your brain cannot tell the difference between something vividly imagine or an experience actually lived. (yes but those negative thoughts can stop the new positive programming from taking effect, only when you are relaxed or asleep, the subconscious mind doesn’t interfere).

Shed technique involves writing or listening to a new self-talk to create a new thinking and new you. The beauty is you don’t necessarily need to pay conscious attention to the messages.

This program is basically an empowering affirmation program. The best option here is to listen to your new self-talk. You won’t need to spend extra time, just play it.

The MOST IMPORTANT PART IS REPETITION. You will not be able to change a lifetime worth of negative programming in one session. You will need to repeat over and over and make it part of your daily life. This works on a subconscious level.

So, create empowering affirmations about yourself, your future, your identity, create a recording and invest about 60 minutes per day and you will see an important improvement. Make the COMMITMENT TO DO IT EVERY SINGLE DAY FOR A SPECIFIC TIME.

The self-talk should be in present tense and in affirmative way, something like
“I travel around the world with my soulmate”, not “I will not be in one place or I won´t be alone anymore”.

The subconscious mind understands direct messages, when you tell it NOT to think about a pink elephant, this is exactly what does.

ONE DAY each of us will die. Let´s make our lives worth living, by living a positive optimistic life, and this will only happen by neutralizing your negative (as well as environmental) programming with POSITIVE, CONSTRUCTIVE, CONSCIOUS thoughts and actions.



If you are looking for other exceptional books on mental training as well as mental toughness here are my favorites, the ones I have personally read:

  1. How Champions think by Dr Bob Rotella
  2. The Champion´s Mind, by Jim Afremov
  3. With winning in Mind, by Lanny Bassham
  4. Chasing Excellence, by Ben Bergeron
  5. Mind Gym, by Gary Mack
  6. Tom Coughlin, by him
  7. No Limits, by Michael Phelps
  8. Relentless by Tim Grover
  9. Unbeatable Mind, by Mark Divine
  10. Get the Life You Want, by Richard Bandler.
  11. Can´t Hurt Me, by David Goggins
  12. Make Your Bed, by Admiral William H- McRaven
  13. Be Obssesed or Be Average by Grant Cardone
  • The 10X Rule, by Grant Cardone
  1. Discipline equals Freedom. 

I keep updating this list regularly….


here are some additional interesting ideas from the book……

  1. Your brain is the most powerful personal biochemical computer, is capable of doing for you anything reasonable you want it to do. It will respond to any programming you give it either positive or negative. You can rewire it.———————————–
  1. ADDICTED TO NEGATIVITY AND DRAMA:The average person has received over 148,000 Nos during the first 18 years of their lives.“You can´t do that, don´t do it. You will never amount to much. You have no future. You are NO good”. If you were on a more positive environment probably you received only 100.000 Nos, still a lot of negative programming.Most people RECEIVE VERY FEW “YES YOU CAN DO IT”, OR “YOU ARE DOING A FANTASTIC JOB” or “you are going to do something amazing in your life”.  We tend to receive very few “yeses”.What about, “You can do it, yes, you can do whatever you commit to. You  ALWAYS find a way to win and win big. You have a bright and amazing future. You are extraordinary, special, unique, amazing. There is NOTHING you can´t Achieve or make happen with really hard work and unwavering faith”.What about repeating this to yourself constantly, every day, several times a day for the next year?It´s very rare to receive POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT. Negativity is ingrained in negativity.How many times has someone tell you are going to achieve something amazing in your life, that you can achieve your biggest goals and dreams? It’s very rare right.IMAGINE if since you were a child you were given massive positive statement and programming, imagine receiving 150.000 positive affirmations and supporting messages, how different your thinking would be.Well the GREAT NEWS is you can give yourself 150.000 positive affirmations and self-talk messages in the next year and it will transform how you think and what you achieve.—————————-
  2. 000 THOUGHTS PER DAY:Research shows that about 80% of your regular thinkinghas a negative connotation, most of your thoughts tend to be negative, from the past, the future of the present.If you think about 40.000 thoughts per day, that means about 32,000 tend to be negative, UNLESS you consciously interrupt them or do something about it.If you live in a negative environment or tend to listen regularly to the news, this number probably will be even higher.REPETITION WORKS BOTH WAYS, ON POSITIVE AND NEGATIVE WAY.
    Your brain doesn’t make a difference. It believes whatever you tell it.


    Much of our self-talk we are not even aware of it, this is an extra challenge, you don’t even realize you are thinking in a negative or corrosive way because SOME OF THESE THOUGHTS are like “mini summaries”, the whole thought doesn’t appear It only appears like an image or color or feeling that represent these thoughts.This is tricky to change; you must pay attention to them. Be aware of them, write them down. Only by observing them you can affect and change them.Belief doesn’t require that something be the way you see it to be. It ONLY REQUIRES YOU TO BELIEVE IT´S TRUE.


  1. Make a Commitment to STOP NEGATIVE MESSAGES …as soon as they appear. Even make a commitment to give yourself constant positive, constructive self-talk to you and others. EDIT NEGATIVITY EVERY TIME IT APPEARS.

    Every message influences your mind and yourself.

    Every thought when repeated becomes stronger, more real, more powerful and eventually it becomes your reality. In other words, it becomes HOW YOU ARE LIKE, WHO YOU ARE.Thoughts like:
    -I can’t remember names
    -it´s no use
    -I will always be fat and overweight.
    -I am shyInterrupt these thoughts with a positive, constructive affirmation or self-talk. Do not let these thoughts run any longer or be part of you. Start now interrupting and adding new empowering ones like….-I have awesome memory, its improving every day
    -Yes it´s possible, every effort counts.
    -I am healthy, energized and I will always be that way.
    -I love people, I love speaking in public. I am a social machine.  

Usually about 12 phrases organized together are enough to change a specific area of mental programming.


I recommend you read this great book, it has some effective self-talk script you can use.

But in my opinion there is nothing like creating your own self-talk audio and commit to listen to it every day for an hour. It´s so easy, you can record it on your smartphone and listen as you go.

The beauty of this process is YOU DON’T HAVE TO PAY CONSCIOUS ATTENTION TO THE MESSAGES, so you can listen while you are doing something else, while you are taking a nap, sleeping or even reading something.



The more you repeat them, the more you will repeat them again.


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“What to Say when you Talk to Yourself”, by Shad Helmstetter
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